Best friends are a valuable resource, they’re always there for when you need them, you can open up to them when you need to and you can date them if you’re ever so inclined. Having a bestie is great and they’re the natural choice for a romantic relationship, but there’s a whole set of things to consider when you’re thinking of dating your best friend and not all of them are positive.
Love is a fickle and capricious thing no matter how much we idealize it. Your best friend is a relationship based on trust and understanding, to take it to another level is a commitment that must be ruminated over for quite a time by both parties before taking it to the next logical level.
Make Him/Her Understand
Communication (or lack thereof) is the primary reason why plenty of relationships fail. It would be natural to assume that as your best friend, the person you’re about to start dating will be understanding and accepting no matter the outcome. This is not usually the case even if he or she shares the same feelings for you.
In friendship one is not expected to perform certain things and such but when besties take it to the romantic tier part, there’s going to be a lot of changes, whether you like it or not. Things that both of you would have passed off to ignorance before suddenly become so much more and turn into potential sources of friction between you two.
The best way go about this is to adjust a little bit and avoid taking things for granted as one or both of you will suddenly start seeing an unreturned text message, an unopened door or some other inconsequential thing as something bigger than it actually is.
Stay as Besties
Some of the changes that’ll come along will be harsh and others a cake walk, but what is certain is that no matter what happens, as long as both of you are serious about your relationship you should always stay besties as this will cement a bond that will stand the test of time.
If you’ve taken to teasing each other or pulling harmless pranks, don’t try to change those as long as both of you have enjoyed those times. Do what you’ve always done for the sake of being best friends. Romance is about doing something you like with a person you equally like, it’s not some sort of code or vow that you’ll suddenly stop doing certain things that may be a bit childish when viewed by others.
Be Strong if it Fails
The biggest risk to dating your bestie is if something fails and both of you end up straining the friendship to a point where you just wanna call it off. This is natural as heartbreak will definitely leave a bitter taste in your mouths.
No matter what happens though, never surrender on the friendship as long as both parties are still willing to remain friends. A friendship for life is preferable than a short and temporary fling.